tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-59937781983149284112024-02-08T04:32:11.969-08:00San's進程Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-75657126726618190872013-07-05T08:00:00.000-07:002013-07-05T08:00:07.089-07:00家人名單系列 – 老爸 -5 - Trigger-point : 迂迴說話術 (2)<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0cm;">
<b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">家人名單系列 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>老爸<span lang="EN-ZA"> - 5<o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Trigger-point :</span></b><b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">迂迴說話術</span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">(<span lang="EN-ZA">2</span>)<span lang="EN-ZA">- </span>間接地“控制術”!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">老爸常常用一種間接的語言來達到他的目地,例如:<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">1</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">、當菜上桌正坐定要開動時,他老人家眼睛一瞄,
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">說『妳想不想配<span lang="EN-ZA">XX</span>醬菜?』或說『我們不是還有<span lang="EN-ZA">XX</span>菜嗎?妳要不吃?』<span lang="EN-ZA">….<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">言下之意,是他要吃<span lang="EN-ZA">XX</span>菜,而我必須要自己了解到並主動地去端出來。</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">2</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">、當他吃飽時,他會說『還剩一碗稀飯!』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">言下之意,是他吃飽不想再吃了,但是剩下的飯菜你要負責吃完!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">3</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">、或問『我們家有沒有熨斗?』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">言下之意,他要我幫他熨衣服!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">暗聊 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>他不能直接說他要什麼嗎?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己聽到老爸的語言中間接地要操控我時,馬上產生不悅的情緒。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己感受到被老爸間接操控時,觸發澎湃的暗聊:<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">*</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">這是那門子的的說話術啊!你以為間接地說是一種禮貌的表現嗎!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">*</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">你以為你沒有直接說出你的要求,就會變成他人是自動地去執行你的需求,那麼,你既可以是不沾鍋(與你無關)又可以是站在卓越的地位!真是狡猾!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #c00000; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">那麼,假若老爸是「直接地」要求我做這、做那,我會心甘情願嗎?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">其實我自認為是一位很有服務精神的人,為什麼服務老爸會有反感呢?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>我真正感到反感的是「他人對我的控制」,無論是直接或間接的要求。只不過「間接地」要求會讓我反感再加一級!因此令我反感的是『權威、操控』,其本質是一樣的。而「間接地操控」是促使我的『暗聊』更沒澎湃的活化素。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">行為模式<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">因為老爸凡事依賴、凡事要求他人。我深深感受到無論「依賴或被依賴」都不好受!所以,我發願絕對不要與老爸一樣那麼地依賴、那麼地無力、那麼地掌控。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我一定要『自力自強』!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">雖然我現在是如此地期許自己能『自力自強』,但是,我看出我有許多的行為軌跡並不是如此!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>每當我在處理事情稍遇難處時,我第一個反應就是在腦子裡搜尋「我可以找誰來幫忙?」、「我可以去請教誰呢?」而不是寧靜下來,好好地思考<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>觀察問題出在那裡?而往往解套的方法就在往下看的下一步中。但是,我都會在此打住,很快地求助於外緣!啊,這就是我根深蒂固的“依賴”本性啊!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">老爸還有一種淋漓發揮的間接控制術就是<span lang="EN-ZA"> - </span>「咳嗽」<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我聽了一輩子「老爸的咳嗽聲」,歸類起來有兩大類:<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">他感受到緊張<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>壓力時,就會以『咳嗽』來表現。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">徧徧老爸又是一位膽小鬼,大小事情都可以讓他感到緊張,而他的「咳嗽」幅度也跟著事情而不同,小事小咳、大事大咳(我親看過他可以咳到要嘔吐)。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">通常他走到我身邊時,他會以輕輕的「咳嗽聲」來吸引我的注意。此時老爸可能要發表言論了、可能要我幫他服務了(如倒水、點心<span lang="EN-ZA">…..</span>),反正,我就必須自己自動了解而主動尋問他:『老爸,你要我為你做什麼?』、『老爸,你要吃什麼嗎?』<span lang="EN-ZA">….<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">聽到「老爸的咳嗽聲」會觸發我許多反應:<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">暗聊<span lang="EN-ZA"> - </span></span></b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">你又要來展現你的「間接控制術」!<b><span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己只要聽到「老爸的咳嗽聲」必定觸發暗聊 <span lang="EN-ZA">–
</span>你又要來展現你的「間接控制術」了,進而產生“煩燥不安”的情緒。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">暗聊<span lang="EN-ZA"> - </span></span></b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">你怎麼「抗壓力」那麼小!凡事緊張、凡事恐懼,多累啊!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己聽到老爸緊張的咳嗽聲時觸發暗聊<span lang="EN-ZA"> -</span>『你怎麼「抗壓力」那麼小!凡事緊張、凡事恐懼,多累啊!』在內心不斷地批判老爸,進而表露不削、不以為然的表情。我沒有允許我自己看到我已經進入心智的耍弄中,是我先在心智中定義「父親」應該要如何如何,而父親真實的表現無法與我心中的定義連結時,因此就觸發了各種嚴苛的批判的暗聊,再產生各種情緒的能量。是我在一瞬間被心智玩弄卻不自知!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">長期以來,我對權威者、控制者已經反感到極點,並且已經做出激烈的反擊,就是『斷絕關係』!然而,唯獨與老爸關係是無法斷絕的。也因為如此,與老爸的相處帶給我極大的痛苦,我才領悟到採取『斷絕外在關係』的手段根本不是辦法!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">痛苦的真正根源是來自於我的內在,假若不從內在下手,所有一切痛苦的根源都原封不動地存封只待被觸發。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我要如何使父親了解,既使我們是『父女關係』,但是,我們仍是“一體平等”的呢?<b> <span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">是什麼因素讓我們無法體認『一體平等』呢?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我要為我自己認知到,既然我們的存在真相是『一體』,那麼『兩極』就是幻相!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">所以,當我能認知『兩極是幻相』,而且它是由自己投射分離出去的顯化時,我才開始有機會拾回從我自己分離出去的片片段段回到我原本就是的、完整的物質生命,才有機會顯化、體認與所有生命的“一體平等”呈現。</span><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我認知到,唯有“心智”會讓我們走向『兩極』!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">然而,要想一步步地從『兩極化』的認知,走回『一體平等』,我們又是要靠“心智”來學習、思考、分析、覺察。啊!『心智』如同雙面刃,敗是它、成也是它。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">所以,心智原本只是一個銳利的“工具”!然而從久遠以來,心智卻變成為“主人”使人們活在幻相中。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Trigger-point :</span></b><b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">迂迴說話術</span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">(<span lang="EN-ZA">1</span>)<span lang="EN-ZA">- </span></span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">間接“批判”各種人<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>事<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>物!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">例如:用餐時,他老人家意見可多了,『這一道菜好吃是好吃,“可是”就是鹹了一些!』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Reaction :</span></b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">暗聊 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>你就不能直接地表達『這道菜鹹了些!』嗎!</span><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">Reaction :</span></b><b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">暗聊 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>老爸!你的語言中就只有“可是、但是、不過”嗎?</span><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己對任何『批評的話語』都會產生『反感』。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">很不幸的,統計老爸的話語中,有<span lang="EN-ZA">50%</span>是「抱怨的話語」、有<span lang="EN-ZA">50%</span>是「批評的話語」!那不就等於,只要老爸一開口我就有得受了!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">當然,此中只要我發現『批評』是針對我的,那我的『反擊行為』在一瞬間就會被啟動!這是非常顯而易見的。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">然而,在此我想要探討的是『老爸針對“我以外”的其它事物批評的話語』為什麼也會惹惱我呢?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己定義『批評』等同為『惡劣行為』!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己認知到<span lang="EN-ZA"> - </span>『批評的語言』是如同眾多的語言,是被用來表達個人的種種想法、感受而已。而它之所以成為『批評的語言』則是已經與心智連結的結果。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們來看看『批』這個字,拆開來看
<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>左邊部首如同一個人用手指指著,右邊『比』字,似乎描述著在兩極中比較過來、比較過去!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>我內心的暗聊批判老爸的批評言論是為惡劣的行為!如此,一個「暗」的批判批一個「明」的批評,這樣的本質不是一樣嗎?要說是“惡劣”!不是也一樣嗎?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>既使我表面上、口頭上沒有顯現批判的語言,但是我的暗聊可是澎湃啊!這樣不是活在『自我欺騙』中嗎?現在,我為自己了解到
<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>內在暗聊才是口頭批判的源頭,根本是同一個本質!我原諒我自己還允許我自己活在心智制造的「自我欺騙」中,並更衍生出『優越惑』<span lang="EN-ZA">- </span>我是一位『嘴吧很乾淨』的人!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">Trigger-point :</span></b><b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">“脾氣爆燥”說來就來<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">老爸出生富裕家庭的長子,據說一直到十幾歲還是由女僕幫他洗腳,完全是一位被寵壞的小孩。所以,只要事情一不順心,他就發脾氣!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己存活在等同回憶中 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>與老爸的相處史可以說是一幕幕深刻的『被罵史』:<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己在早年很長的一段成長過程中,只要遇到有人大聲訓斥我,我一定默默不語且關閉自己的耳朵,但內心“恐懼“的不得了!之後必定產生“感覺受傷”及“傷心”的情緒。成年之後,每遇對方『發脾氣』,內心必定產生澎湃的“怒氣”,並開始在語言上反擊,但大部份還是選擇『壓抑、妥協』!然而,“憤怒、傷心”的情緒一點也沒減。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己只要有人對我發脾氣,我就認定是我的錯(不夠好<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>認真<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>努力<span lang="EN-ZA">/……</span>)並相信我在對方的眼中是很差<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>沒價值的,馬上扮演起「臣服於權威的受害者角色」!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我最討厭『脾氣爆燥』的人!沒有什麼人品比『脾氣爆燥』更令人厭惡!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">暗聊 <span lang="EN-ZA">–</span></span></b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">難道我都不能表達我的意見嗎?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">奇怪!我那麼討厭『壞脾氣』的人,可是徧徧出現在我周邊的重要人物都是典型的『壞脾氣』。排行榜第一位當然就是老爸,其它是我的<span lang="EN-ZA">Ex</span>法師們、<span lang="EN-ZA">Ex</span>先生、<span lang="EN-ZA">Ex</span>鋼琴老師、<span lang="EN-ZA">Ex</span>密友們。哈!這裡可以看出,除了我的老爸之外,其它『壞脾氣』的人物都已經成為“<span lang="EN-ZA">Ex</span>”了。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己以『斷絕關係』來表達我不再接受『壞脾氣』的人際關係,但是我沒有允許為我自己認知到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>我根本沒有與他們須臾斷絕過關係,因為他們對我的影響早就滲透入我的『人格行為模式』!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">雖然我是位出了名的『好脾氣音樂老師』,表面上是位爛好人。因此,造就出許多親朋好友恣意向我『要』東西!諸如:時間、金錢等。有趣的是,當關係進入最親密的層次時,他們就開始對我亂發脾氣!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>原來是我讓這樣的狀況發生的!我還在此中份演假聖人,認為就是因為我是這麼“好”的人,所以他們才來找我幫忙!我原諒我自己沒有允許自己看到我是站在“不對等”的地位幫助他人,而真相是我在增長我自己“優越的<span lang="EN-ZA">Ego</span>”,並搏取了他人的賀彩。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">此中還有一個隱晦的行為模式:<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我既「“渴望”權威」又「“畏懼”權威」進而「“痛恨”權威」!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己認知到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>我“渴望”權威者來帶領我,那麼我就可以舒舒服服地當個「小跟班」就好(不用負責任!)。如此當我輕易地交出我的主權時,我就任人宰割了!在這當中,我還可以份演一個非常熟練的『受害者』角色,搏取各方憐憫的嘆息!當心智已經完全吸收了此中所激發出來能量時,最後的最高潮就是斷絕所有的親密的人際關係。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>我從來就沒有發展出任何一個『對等的人際關係』,沒有體認過『一體平等的人際關係』,更沒有在各種的關係中拿到過任何“禮物”!在此,我要向自己及過往所有與我相遇的人們說:『對不起!』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">在事件當下(有人向我發脾氣時),我就只要在物質身體中呼吸!並認知到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>對方就只是在表達他自己,他是在發他自己的脾氣。我就是在呼吸中等待這股能量的通過,絕對停止內心的暗聊!停止再把對方更遠地分離出去!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我要為我自己認知到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>所有人的性格都是在他們無能為力的情況之下造就出來的,那麼,你又如何能責怪他們的人品呢!而他們的這些性格都是再再地反映出我也有相同的人格特質,而我責怪<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>不認同這些人格特質,事實上是針對自己而言的,而我卻沒有看清真相,反而把責難的手指指向了外在!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">但是,在進程中可能又會陷入<span lang="EN-ZA"> - </span>對進展的期待與焦慮、面對相同事件失敗的挫折與失望、學習別人所不知的知識的優越感、看到別人所無法覺察的權威感 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>的心智反撲中。我就是在呼吸中覺察再覺察,盡可能地把<span lang="EN-ZA">DIP</span>教導我的工具磨利,我才能有一天拿回我的一切主導權!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">Trigger-point :</span></b><b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;"> </span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">猶豫不決(<span lang="EN-ZA">2</span>)<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">通常我們好不容易決定下來的事,但他老人定永遠覺得被淘汰、沒被執行的<span lang="EN-ZA">B/C/D…</span>方案是比較好的!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">例如我們外出用餐時,好不容易決定好了菜單,但是,永遠認為鄰桌點的菜比較好!所以,他常常說『“早知道”<span lang="EN-ZA">……..</span>就好了!』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">這時,我的內心『澎湃』啊!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">Reaction : </span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">暗聊 <span lang="EN-ZA">–</span></span></b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">又來了!決定了不就安住在現況就好了,不是嗎?</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;"> </span></span><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">Reaction :</span></b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">又有被“責備”的感覺。雖然不一定會被直接指責,但整個情況就是我必須負全部的責任,因為是我決定的方案<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>我點的菜<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>我決定的旅遊景點!</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;"> <span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己因為『老爸常在好不容易決定好的事情上懊悔不已』為觸發點,進而引發澎湃的暗聊<span lang="EN-ZA"> - </span>『又來了!決定了不就安住在現況就好了,不是嗎?』此時,我原諒我自己從來沒有允許我自己覺察到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>此時,我的身體必定會先從“太陽神經叢”處開始燥動,臉部肌肉開始縮收,尤其是眉頭一定皺起、嘴角抿起(這可以從我臉上已經刻畫出來的皺紋証明),接下來嚨部的肌肉開始充血澎脹,就即將有難聽的話語要從我的嘴吧噴出!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己因為『老爸的懊悔話語、不滿的語氣<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>表情』為觸發點,如同被蚊虫叮咬般馬上生起防護、排斥、反擊的本能。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #c00000; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">到底『老爸懊悔行為』傷害了我什麼呢?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許為我自己了知到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>老爸只不過是在表達他自己的想法<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>感受<span lang="EN-ZA">..</span>,只不過是他的心智與物質的綜合展現。而我卻透過我的心智把如此單純的“真相”雜染成『老爸是在針對我、是在打擊我!』的“幻相”。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">*</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">『老爸這輩子可能只有娶了老媽這一件事沒有懊悔過,其它每一件事都能拿來懊悔,說不定他也會覺得“鄰家的小孩比較好!”』(此時當然附帶著他讚美鄰家小孩的記憶畫面,我在此原諒我仍存在這樣的回憶!)<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">*</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">『逃避自己的責任,企圖引發他人的內疚感,真可惡!』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己以內在的暗聊嚴厲地批判老爸,雖然大部份沒有形之於言論,且我還錯誤的認為這樣我才能夠疏解我內在不滿<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>憤怒的壓力, 而沒有允許我為自己了解到,我在內心一次次地批判老爸,也正一次次地培養我“攻擊”的能力!再此,我還要原諒我自己沒有允許為我自己看到
<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>在一次次的暗聊批判中,我也一次次地增長我的『優越感』!因為,老爸你這些缺點我已經點過你<span lang="EN-ZA">N+1</span>次了,而你仍完全看不到,我發誓絕對不要像你這樣那麼會折磨人!更沒允許我自己看到,在這些周而復始的事件中,我是一次次的更『分離』了我與老爸!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我為自己覺察到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>心智狡詐的手段隨然千變萬化,但似乎有跡可尋!首先,因為事件的觸發,馬上牽引到心智中保存『回憶』的資料庫,一瞬間就調出所有相關的資料!暗聊再以此為肥沃的基地,馬上一剎那間就產生出如同葡萄串般的暗聊!接著因著暗聊的助長,“情緒”就如同錢塘潮般地一浪疊一浪地高漲起來!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">在此我看到我有一個無法言喻的憤怒。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己認為 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>老媽是被老爸害死的!因為老爸的性格是那麼的折磨人,老媽就先一步逃走了!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己了知到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>任何除了自己之外的其它事物,只有在自己的接受和允許之下才“傷害”得了自己!並原諒自己沒有讓自己認知到
<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>既使在自己的接受和允許之下所傷害的對象卻是心智幻化出來的『自我』,這樣不是存活在『以幻相傷害幻相』的『自我欺騙』當中嗎!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">因此,我發現我除了養成『快速下決定』的行為模式之外,還養成了『絕不後悔』的行為模式,但是往往有許多經驗都是因為『太快下決定』,以至於發生不愉快的後果,但是,我往往不想處於“懊悔”中,然而因此失掉了許多從中學習成長的機會!
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">這時,我要強力指揮自己只做一件事 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>就是呼吸!一開始透過猛力的吐氣,把僵硬、結塊的能量鬆下來,之後再回到平穩的呼吸。能做到這一步就能暫時拿回主導權!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 125%;">透過<span lang="EN-ZA">DIP</span>的課程一步步的看出我是如何活著等同心智,並透過進程中教導的工具一次次的書寫『自我寬恕』,慢慢地解構心智對我的束縛,以期真正活在『自我修正』中,再重拾由我分離出去的投射,回到物質世界完整的自我。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">一、大夥兒想出去打牙祭,詢問他老人家的意見時,他一定說『沒意見!』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">他老人既然沒意見,那好辦,我就提了一間餐館,他馬上搖頭否定!我就再提一間,還是搖頭再加搖手否定!我就再提一間,還是一樣否定!這時,我的內心鐵定澎湃<span lang="EN-ZA">….</span>。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">二、出門散步,一定要問『穿長袖還是短袖?』『要不要拿帽子<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>雨傘?』<span lang="EN-ZA">…..<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">往往我說『這麼熱穿短袖好了!』,他就會說『我還是穿長袖比較安全!』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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A:</span></b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">暗聊<span lang="EN-ZA"> -<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext;"> </span></span></span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext;">你要我作決定沒問題,但我的意見卻一次次地被否定,要你自己出個意見又絕對是沒有的!那,你是把我當猴戲耍啊!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">Reaction B: </span></b><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span lang="EN-ZA" style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;"> </span></span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">開始引發出主意、作決定的焦慮感!因為,我可以預料到,要麼不是主意被否定就是決定被責怪!</span></span><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己因為老爸面對事情的</span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">“猶豫不決”觸發我內心澎湃的暗聊<span lang="EN-ZA"> - </span>『</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">你要我作決定沒問題,但我的意見卻一次次地被否定,要你自己出個意見又絕對是沒有的!那,你是把我當猴戲耍啊!</span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">』並原諒我自己接受和允許我自己同時引發『</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">出主意、作決定的焦慮感!』進而更引發出『生氣』的情緒!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #c00000; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">為什麼『<span class="MsoPlaceholderText">出主意、作決定會引發“焦慮感”呢?』<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己『必須為大家出主意、作決定』作為觸發點而引發“焦慮”的情緒,而沒有為自己明白
<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>就是因為「自己活著等同記憶」,所以預想到我的主意<span lang="EN-ZA">/ </span>決定的後果一定是被『否定<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>責備』進而引發“焦慮感”!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己『害怕被否定、害怕被責備』。在這裡我允許我為自己了解到
<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>“否定、責備”居然與我的『生存的價值』息息相關,尤其是來自於父親的否定與責備,因為一直以來我都是以外界對我的評價來定位我的『生存價值』!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>當第一次的觸發點發生時,我已經一步邁向心智系統而不自知,當然也不可能指揮自己留在物質的當下!所以,當接二連三的否定發生時,我就一步步地進入的心智的掌控直到完全等同心智!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己讓同樣的戲碼周而復始的不斷演練,沒有允許自己看到是自己內心澎</span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">湃的戲碼不斷演練,卻反而指責老爸『猶豫不決』的戲碼不斷上演。我並原諒我自己從來沒有真正地去探索是什麼觸動我內心的</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">澎</span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">湃?<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">Reaction C: </span></b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">生氣 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>又來了!每次都要演一樣的戲碼!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">此中除了『作決定的焦慮感』之外,還有一種更強烈的『生氣』情緒:<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己,</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">因為老爸面對事情</span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">“猶豫不決”迫使我必須做出決定並承受後果時,內心產生澎湃的暗聊 </span><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">- </span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">真是狡猾,把責任推得乾乾淨淨,之後才能理所當然地責備他人!因此而觸發『生氣』的情緒。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: #c00000; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我在『生氣』什麼啊!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">–</span>已經產生『生氣』的能量,表示『心智』得逞了,心智已經得到它所需要滋養的養份!我並原諒我自己,沒有允許自己察覺<span lang="EN-ZA"> - </span>在產生『生氣』情緒之前的『暗聊』就已經該生起警訊,提醒自己要指揮自己拿回主導權的關鍵時刻!反而,更進入心智系統去分析老爸逃避責任的狡猾行為是多麼的惡劣!因此最後產生強烈的『生氣』情緒。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許為我自己認知到 <span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>因為我認為『老爸<span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext;">把責任推得乾乾淨淨,之後才能理所當然地責備他人!』,所以</span></span>我“生氣“!我也同樣地犯了推御責任,因為我認為『就是因為他人這樣、那樣<span lang="EN-ZA">…</span>』,所以,我才會“生氣”!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我之所以會“生氣”都是因為『除了自己以外的他人』的緣故。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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E:</span></b><span lang="EN-ZA" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">唾棄三心二意下不了決定的人!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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</span></span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">唾棄三心二意下不了決定的人!並決定自己做事要果斷、不</span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">猶豫。</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span lang="EN-ZA" style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己因為對「</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">老爸的</span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">“猶豫不決”」強烈地批判,進而『</span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">唾棄三心二意下不了決定的人!』並發誓絕對不要與老爸一樣地『</span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">猶豫不決<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span></span><span class="MsoPlaceholderText"><span style="color: windowtext; font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 115%;">無法做決定』,因此養成我『快速下決定』的行為模式!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>注意再注意!緣在呼吸上!不要讓歷史重演!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>停止!停止連線!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>我已經涉入心智的計謀中!我一定要暫時停止一切的外在的活動,我可以離開一下、至少閉嘴,為自己爭取一些時、空,讓自己有機會回到呼吸中物質的當下,回到指導原則,再重新出發回到事件的中心點。站在與老爸是一體平等的體認下共同做出決定!<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>我看到了從遠古的祖先代代相傳下來的性格!而這正是心智的計謀,使我們處於「情緒」的能量激盪中,籍此心智得以壯大。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-ZA">– </span>老爸的怯於下決定,是他害怕自己對自己的批判<span lang="EN-ZA">/</span>責備,而他就像我的一面鏡子,反映出我內在所下載了的什麼!老爸與我是一體呈現的,為的是讓我有機會體悟到真相。<span lang="EN-ZA"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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- </span></b><b style="font-size: xx-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">訴苦</span></b><b style="font-size: xx-large;"><span lang="EN-US">/whining</span></b></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">想想這輩子與朋友最多的對話及內心的暗聊</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">就是訴苦</span><span lang="EN-US">/whining</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己經常使用『抱怨</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">訴苦』的語言,在抱怨的語言中包含有</span>
<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">尋找理由、藉口、批判、責怪、憤怒、打抱不平、自憐、自怨、自悲</span><span lang="EN-US">….</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">等</span><span lang="EN-US"> ; </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">並原諒我自己從來沒有接受和允許自己去調查</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">為什麼我有這種「行為模式」?而這種行為模式的背後原因是什麼?</span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">感受到“無能</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">無助</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">無力”時</span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">感受到“挫折”時</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己察覺到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">只要我感覺到壓力、被迫害、委曲、無能</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">無助</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">無力、挫折時,就自動啟發『訴苦的行為模式』!並沒有允許自己察覺在啟動『訴苦行為』之前是先連結到心智中的記憶進而引發情緒能量,當此『負面能量』累積到一定的刻度時,我的『訴苦行為模式』就啟動了!朋友的耳朵就要招殃了。</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">–</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">“抗拒”的背後原因是</span> <span lang="EN-US">–</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">“恐懼”!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">啊!我的『訴苦行為』不僅在“事前”做、“中間”更做,“事後”還要『訴苦』,直到朋友耳朵長繭才意猶未盡地打住。</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">要『訴苦』到什麼樣的程度?並『期待』著得到什麼樣的回饋!然而,其中千篇一律地都是訴說著:我是如何的被迫害!我是如何的忍耐著做事!我是如何的無助!</span><span lang="EN-US">…..</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">交換似的友誼!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">我原諒我自己接受和允許當我自己發現做“錯”事時,馬上的行為反應為『藉口』和『批判』!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我觀察在這事件中的過程第一步是<b>『理由</b></span><b><span lang="EN-US">/</span></b><b><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口』</span></b><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己接受和允許當我聽到學生比賽結束打電話來告知「指定曲準備錯誤」時,我馬上感覺非常“羞愧”的情緒,馬上在腦海中搜索各式各樣的理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口來圓這個“錯誤”。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(<span style="color: #c00000;">我為什麼要尋找各種理由</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #c00000;">/</span><span style="color: #c00000; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口呢?</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">)</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己認知到我找理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口的背後有這麼多的思考</span><span lang="EN-US">/ </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">行為模式:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span lang="EN-US">1.</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">逃避『自我負責』,也就是從『自我負責』中退位</span> </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span lang="EN-US">2.</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不願意面對『自我的真相』</span> </span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">是的!我是利用理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口來逃避『自我負責』。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己利用理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口來逃避『自我負責』。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">有這些理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口閃過我的腦中:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">˙為什麼主辦單位不把「指定曲」公佈清楚並提供相關曲譜資料,這樣我就不會搞錯!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">˙為什麼我的家長不與我“</span><span lang="EN-US">double check</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">”!這樣我就會再仔細地研究一下啊!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">˙為什麼那樣不幸地抽到這一首指定曲呢!明明就還有那麼多首啊!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到</span>
<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">反正無論如何都是『除了“我”之外的因素“錯”在先』,這樣不就是在逃避『我』應負的責任嗎!</span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">是的!我是利用理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口來逃避面對『自我的真相』</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己利用理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口來逃避面對『自我的真相。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">而『真相』是:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">˙主辦單位已經把仔細資料公佈,包括樂曲版本、編號及建議購買處等充足的資訊。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">˙我的家長又不是音樂專家,她又如何與我“</span><span lang="EN-US">double check</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">”。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">換指定曲時,我沒有再度的研究</span><span lang="EN-US">/check</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">以確定所準備的「指定曲」無誤,所以,這當然是為人師者所應負的責任啊!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(<span style="color: #c00000;">為什麼我明知這是我的錯所造成的後果,但為什麼在發生的第一時間我在腦中是先搜索「不是我的錯」的理由</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #c00000;">/</span><span style="color: #c00000; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口呢?</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">)</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到我找理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口的背後因素有:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">˙是的,我要為我自己的『當初的想法』辯護</span>
<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">當初我確實有研究過指定曲,只不過主辦單位沒有把資訊寫清楚,所以才導致我弄錯了曲。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到</span>
<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">當我快速地在腦海中編造理由來辯護我『最初的想法』時,我就已經站在『逃避』的『起始點』!只要我讓自己一開始『不是我的錯』,那麼之後所發生的一切都不會是我的錯了。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">˙是的,我怕害承受『後果』</span><span lang="EN-US">- </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">學生在比賽時因為演奏不正確的指定曲,她在演奏的當下一定擔驚受怕,結果當然不會有好成績!而我們準備了兩年就等這個比賽,所以這對學生及家長而言應是很大的一個打擊!而這些都是因為我的疏忽而發生的!</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我所逃避的是害怕面對“結果”,不!是害怕面對因為『我』而造成的“後果”,啊!不,是害怕『承擔後果』。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: small;">(</span><span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="color: #c00000; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">會有那一些後果呢?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #c00000;"><o:p></o:p></span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: small;">)</span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我很心疼學生在比賽當時的擔驚受怕及對名次的失望</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我以為我是心疼學生在比賽當時的擔驚受怕及對名次的失望,其實我是害怕面對「因我的錯所發生的後果所產生的巨大“愧疚感”」,這愧疚感是很不舒服的負面能量啊!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己害怕「受到懲罰」!我發現在『後果』發生之後,我在腦中迅速評估著接著可能會發生的效應:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到</span>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">因為,我定義自己存在為『值得完全信賴的老師』!然而,這事件將損及我的專業能力,損及學生及家長對我的信任!因此,我找理由</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉口來扳回我的專業度,其實是在維護我的『生存價值』!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己喜歡“故意”處於『拖延』的狀態,而明明知道早一些準備可以準備齊全且不會那麼慌張。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">在記憶中有無數次的出門忘東忘西,所忘的東西有:各種必備鑰匙、沒有鎖門、錢、各種卡、各種証件、印章、課本、手機、備忘</span><span lang="EN-US">…….</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不勝枚舉,所造成的種種不便</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不順都還不能令我戒掉這種『拖延』的惡習。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己對整理家務經常處於『拖延』的狀態。</span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">該準備的功課也是處於『施延』中:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">例如:我身為人師所要準備的教案、身為學生所要練習的功課。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我讓自己處於『拖延』準備教案和練習功課中,直到內心壓力大到覺得非做不可時,才動手去行動。</span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">一、藉口</span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">˙我剛吃飽,不想馬上去洗碗</span><span lang="EN-US">……..</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,所以,“等一下”想洗時再洗。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">˙離結止日還有一段時日,所以,“等”時間靠近一些我再去辦理。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">˙現在頭腦不清淅無法準備功課,所以,“等”有腦力時再準備。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許為自己認知到</span><span lang="EN-US"> - </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">這些讓我理所當然的『等一下』的暗聊都是心智創造出來的藉口,而這些藉口都非常的貼心如同吃糖般地,會使我馬上接受、馬上放棄去行動,並任運地使用在每一件事上,都是“等一下、再等一下、再再等一下</span><span lang="EN-US">….</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">”我會去做。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">二、我還利用另一種方式來『拖延』</span><span lang="EN-US"> - </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">就是<b>『批判』</b></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">˙我還有更重要的</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">更有義意的事要做啊!所以,“等一下”我再來做這個。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">˙我是喜愛自由的,才不要被規律束縳住!所以,我不要照規矩來,“等一下”我隨性隨機地做!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己認知到</span><span lang="EN-US"> - </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我利用心智創造的『批判』來不斷地「分離」我與外在的事物,並養成了『拖延』更甚者為『懶惰』行為的模式。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">三、<b>『在記憶中評估』</b>使我『拖延』</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">渾汗如雨的運動、汗流夾背的煮飯、千篇一律的煩人家事、與人溝通不確定的不安、</span><span lang="EN-US">……………….</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">太多、太多了!這些會產生不舒適能量的事我會評估之後進一步找到「藉口」來「拖延」。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我們家兄弟每一位在出生時父母都會請有名的算命師為我們算出我們的一生藍圖,並常聽長輩們以此為話題津津樂道地談論。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許自己非常熱衷於各種算命,不僅各種不同的算命師都喜歡去嘗試</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">算算命,還以學習各種簡易的相術為樂。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己從來沒有為自己認知到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">熱衷算命、學習相術這些背後到底有什麼問題!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己在各種集會場合特別喜歡以各種所學的相術為話題,並為與會的朋友們算命。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己從來沒有為我自己認知到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">為什麼大家都那麼熱衷於這樣的話題?且沒有為自己看到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">自己不但愛賣弄所學的相術淺學,且在大家起閧中,更是大膽的隨性胡言。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己從來沒有為自己看到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">當我賣弄我的相術時及在能量牽引隨性胡言時,所說的話語是那麼地不負責任!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己在遇到重大事件時總喜歡先“求神問卜”。</span> <span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">母親生病時問了米卦及有宿命通的師父。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">以前擁有過各式各樣的卡(能量卡、天使卡、禪修卡</span><span lang="EN-US">……</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">),養成大小屁事都要抽個卡問一問。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己看到</span><span lang="EN-US"> - </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">為什麼我會不想“面對事情必經的過程”?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我看到我不想面對“恐懼”</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許為我自己了知到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">原來我是“恐懼失去”!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">當我發現我可能在不久的將來會失去某人</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">事</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">物時,我馬上求助於外在的某個更卓越的權威,並暗暗地希求得到“好”的結果</span><span lang="EN-US"> ; </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">因此我原諒我自己籍用『算命』把自己的命運投射到「未來」以得到“安慰”。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">例如父親生重病時,米卦師說照著這樣、那樣做就會好起來</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">沒有問題的!內心就如同吃了「定心丸」,立刻興高彩烈地去完成米卦師的囑咐。</span> <span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我看到我不想面對經歷過程的“壓力”</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己了解到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">原來我是害怕承受“壓力”!當我發現這事可能將會花掉我很多的心血而“結果”又未卜時,這時我會希望知道“結果”並且是“好結果”,這樣才值得花下心血,否則不是白做工了嗎!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">此時,我看到了幾個點:</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我排斥“麻煩的事”</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我做事的動力都是放在</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">會有好的結果上</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己心中總有一把尺衡量著</span><span lang="EN-US"> - </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">每一件事的義意</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">價值!我原諒我自已從來沒有為我自己認知到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">這一把尺如同秤能量的天秤,若能得到高的</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">好的</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">舒服的能量,就是有義意</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">價值</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">值得去做的事。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己一向以來認為</span><span lang="EN-US"> - </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">『靈性修持』才是最有義意</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">有價值的事!因此,我原諒我自己沒有為自己看到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">除了做與『靈性修持』有關的性之外,我都是本著「可免則免」或「心不甘情不願地煩燥著</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">馬糊著做」,且定義</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">除了『靈性修持之外都是麻煩的事』!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己在衡量事情要不要做時,總是討價還價似的計較著</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">假若此事與『靈性修持』無關,但結果會帶來“好能量”,那麼就姑且做吧!反之,則能拖就儘量拖吧!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己認知到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我做每一件事的「起始點」都是先「投射到未來」!在此,我現在看到我使用了幾種「投射」:</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">利用與我「分離」的外力來告訴我「結果」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己只要遇到有些棘手的事情,就馬上求助於『我』之外的、所謂的專家來告訴我『未來的結果』會如何!而從來沒有為自己看到這種慣性的從主權退位、矮化自己並把主權交託給與我「分離的」、「卓越的」某人,是種完全<b><i>不</i></b>「自我負責、自我誠實」的呈現!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">以經驗值來計算結果所產生的能量感受</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己做任何事之始,都會先以過往的經驗評估</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">這事做下去會不會有「正能量」的感受,若「有」</span><span lang="EN-US">- </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">則開心的去進行,若「沒有」又必須做時</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">則煩燥地去進行,否則能拖就拖了。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己認知到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">這樣只以「未來</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">結果」是否能感受「正能量」為行動指標的方式過日子,是等於否定行動的過程、等於沒有活在當下,因為直接跳到「未來的投射」中,等於只活中「心智」中!等於沒有真正地活著!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">直接投射到未來</span><span lang="EN-US"> - </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">想像著完美的結果</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">把自己投射到未來、試著繪製未來,且</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我已經完成我該做的事,並想像我正在享受“結果”,然而在事實上,我根本就還沒有開始去做它。因此,我原諒我自己沒有接受和允許我自己認知到</span>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-20781763491766065042013-05-06T08:30:00.000-07:002013-05-06T17:38:52.083-07:00只要我okay就好 -2 逃跑高手!<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">逃跑高手</span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="background-color: #d9d9d9; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">開會等同極其無聊、處理事務等同極其麻煩!所以,我只要維持是客座老師的身份,就僅只上我自己的課,其它的都與我無關!</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">認為自己「眼光獨到」且有「沒有任何羈絆」的優越感!</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">這是我的「根本大逃跑」計倆,因為我認為只要在做「靈性修持」時才是有義意的,其它一切都只是在忍耐著做、應付著做、馬虎著做、不耐煩著做、抱怨著做、壓抑著做、無聊著做、交換條件著做以期換取「靈性修持」的時間,認為只有在「靈性修持」時才是最完美的、才是活著的!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">且,我承諾要為我自己了知到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不是我活著如同眼盲、耳聾地無視、無聞世界的發生我就是過著『</span><span lang="EN-US">okay</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">』的日子!因為世上每一件事的發生都是因著我們的接受與允許才可能發生的!所以,過著「無視、無聞只要自己</span><span lang="EN-US">okay</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">」的生活等同「自我欺騙、自我不誠實」等同「全然地不負責任」!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">因此,我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己故意「無知」而「無視」這世界的發生,因為我不想</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不敢</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">沒有勇氣去面對因為我的接受和允許所產生的後果!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我承諾我自己,也要為自己看到當我過著「無視、無聞只要自己</span><span lang="EN-US">okay</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">」的生活等同「不負責任」的生活時,也就是等同在說假設「只要我受苦,那麼我才會為我及這世界負責」,所以,在此</span><span lang="EN-US" style="background: #D9D9D9; mso-pattern: gray-15 auto; mso-shading: white;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">高興就好!</span></b><b><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">自我寬恕</span></b><b><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己每天一醒來就是不斷地調查我的『幸福指數』</span><span lang="EN-US">- </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">先感受一下自己睡飽</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">睡好了嗎?心中有沒有殘留煩惱?接下來,查看「我的</span><span lang="EN-US">ARCH</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(小貓)」有沒有在身邊並親親、抱抱牠,起床後,查看天氣、外面的景緻(遠山</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">河水</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">鳥鳴</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我的花園</span><span lang="EN-US">..</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">等)、換什麼衣服、早餐</span><span lang="EN-US">……..</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,啊!每一樣都必須在最好的位置上,我就感覺今天我是「幸福」的人!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己定義『幸福』為擁有親密的人際關係,所以計算著要打電話給誰。首先,當然是打給老爸查看他是否在「秩序」中?接下來,是眾好友們,並於其中計算著親疏遠近的關係而決定打電話的頻率與長度。啊!我原諒我自己,沒有接受和允許自己看到</span>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己定義『幸福』為</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">與家人</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">朋友</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">寵物</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">親密伴侶相處,並於此中要充滿“歡笑”才是『幸福』。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己渴望擁有『幸福』,而沒有允許自己看到</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">真相是渴望擁有「正能量」。因此,要用力的維護周遭的秩序、用力的維護親密的人際關係、用力的製造歡笑藉此來得到「正能量」;但,於追求的過程中又大量耗損能量,於是當然要更用力的維護。在這樣地周而復始的循環中,這不就是「上癮」嗎!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己接受和允許我自己試圖到處去『尋找幸福』,而不是去調查原因</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">為什麼我不能在每一刻中,就單純地『我是誰(</span><span lang="EN-US">who I am </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">)』而感到幸福,並進而去自我修正到底是什麼讓我感到不幸福。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">自我修正</span></b><b><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">當心智插進來時,馬上下指令『</span><span lang="EN-US">Stop</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">!』、當感受</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">情緒來時,下指令『</span><span lang="EN-US">Stop</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">!』,就只是單純地呼吸。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="color: #c00000; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">為什麼我周遭「一切在秩序中」我就覺得是『幸福』的呢?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #c00000;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="color: #c00000; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">為什麼世人大都發了瘋似的無盡地追求「幸福</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #c00000;">/</span><span style="color: #c00000; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">正能量」呢?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #c00000;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我要為我所追求「每一分幸福」相對的「每一分悲傷」負責任!因為,這「悲傷」是“我”創造出來啊!</span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-35812287743001254632013-03-31T08:30:00.000-07:002013-03-31T08:30:00.234-07:00啊!親愛的父親(二) - 與父親的相處<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">啊!親愛的父親(二)</span></b><b> <span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: large;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己存在為「討父母歡欣的奮鬥史的回憶」中,而並於其中定位自己的存在價值,而我也確實是三個兄弟中表現最亮眼的,所以在老爸暮年時,更不能打破我辛苦建立的「形相」啊!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己,因為我沒有接受和允許我自己了解到,父親不斷地告訴我「他害怕孤獨」,這是在反射我的內在讓我自己看到!我自己雖然從沒說過「害怕孤獨」,但從我常常向外攀緣就可以明白</span><span lang="EN-US"> -</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「我是害怕孤獨的」!在此,我原諒我自己,因為我沒有允許我自己看到,原來我自己也是「能量剽竊高手」!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: large;">寫到此,我看出了一些端倪,原來大夥都是「能量剽竊者」,我的「成長奮鬥史」都是為了以「達到父母的期待」得到父母的肯定來剽竊父母的能量、老父用「哀兵記」來剽竊我們兒女的能量、我又以「受害者」角色來剽竊朋友的能量。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: large;">近來與老爸的一次相處談話內容令我非常震驚,「本來不想寫」出來,但還是覺得非寫不可。老爸的心思近來一直放在他的「人生價值」上,他認為他的價值是在他蓋棺論定時,兒女、媳婦們得到豐厚的財產,這樣就是他的「有價值人生」!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: large;">但接著老爸說了一個我從來沒有聽過的新論點:祖產會分一份給我但要我自動放棄繼承、並希望我過戶一部份我的財產到他的名下,以便讓他入土時的帳戶是好看的!</span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-71438195575199842972013-03-30T17:30:00.000-07:002013-03-30T21:02:34.775-07:00啊!親愛的父親(一) - 與父親的熱線<br />
<span style="font-size: x-large;">啊!親愛的父親(一)</span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-large;"> - 與父親的熱線</span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我害怕「負面能量」!而沒有允許自己了知這就是心智運作的標準模式</span> <span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉著我已經被老爸的抱怨觸發的負面情緒及內心排斥的暗聊再度持續激發情緒能量,而這些情緒能量就是心智的養份啊!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">然而我是真的從自己退位而把主權父給父親</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">他人嗎?</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">這就妙了,寫到這裡我看到</span><span lang="EN-US"> - </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我最不能接受老爸常說的話題就是『他的快樂、健康、壽命是我們小孩給他的』,每當聽到他這麼說時,我的內心都會有非常強烈的反彈,認為老爸是「最孬的推卸責任者」!</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">當我“用力”的說著話時,我已經成為能量的奴隸了!因為由於我的內心批判老爸在處於極負面情緒、又認為我的觀點絕對是優越的,所以我已經被能量惡魔丟到了兩極的另一端而不自知。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己一定要保持在「孝順的好女兒」的角色上,所以只要道完歉老爸不生氣了,我就回到我完美無缺的角色上;而沒有允許自己看到我的一生都是在接受他人</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">父母</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">師長</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">社會</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">傳統的價值觀來定位自己存在的價值,所以每當存在的價值動搖時,我就定要極力捍衛。</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">為什麼他人的學生演奏時完全不會引發我的「緊張感」!這就是在向我揭露出「緊張」的情緒不是真實的,因為假若它是真實的,那麼它與聆聽音樂必是一體的,只要聆聽任何一個人的演奏都要會帶來「緊張感」!但並非如此啊!可見「緊張感」是由“心智”引生出來的,是心智先分離出「自、他的學生」,並置入對自己學生的「期待」,所以才會在聆聽自己學生的演奏時產生「緊張感」!我承諾我自己要透過書寫自我寬恕、自我修正,一點一滴地把心智中的種種「分別」解構掉!</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「自己以為浸淫在這種強烈的“</span><span lang="EN-US">adrenaline rush</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">”的能量衝擊才是盡情體驗人生、人生才是彩色的!」這是天大錯誤的認知。熟不知這樣不叫「體驗人生」,這是心智在體驗能量並從中擷取養分來壯大自己,而我與整個物質身體早已完全淪為階下囚。我承諾我自己,雖然我知道在進程中還有很長的路要走,但我就是呼吸儘量保持在當下物質身體中,心思來了就書寫、情緒動了就書寫、感受到能量還是書寫,就是如此。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">親愛的家長們,首先要謝謝各位家長對孩子們學習音樂的支持,並願意把你們寶貝的孩子交到我手上,再次謝謝你們對我的信賴。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我們都知道,比賽的日子將近,而我一向是非常反對『比賽』,因為“音樂的存在本質”絕非是用來競賽的!但是我們可以利用『比賽』來成為我們的工具,一方面讓孩子們藉由參與比賽提升音樂的涵養,另一方面更重要的是可以在這過程中獲得許多平時無法學習到的無形寶物。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我在此邀請各位家長一起陪同我們的孩子走上這次的比賽過程,共同穿越這趟驚奇之旅。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">首先,家長們在家裡是否可以當我的秘密教練</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">(</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">也成為孩子的第</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">1</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">個超級粉絲</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">)</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,當孩子要求你們當觀眾時,請配合並且幫他們錄音</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">(</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">或錄影</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">)</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,之後馬上一起觀賞,這時每個人都可以是鑑賞家,但希望家長的評語是“鼓勵多於批判”</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">(</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">請用超級粉絲的角度讓孩子體驗演奏的成就感</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">)</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,那麼,第一次的表演錄音將是下一次的參考值。目前一星期錄一、兩次就行了,等到越近比賽時次數再增加即可,希望藉此可以克服孩子們上台的膽怯。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">以上為第一帖錦囊妙計!</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">以演奏音樂而言,就是吹奏上的技巧、詮釋</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">…</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">等等的完備,這是我在課堂中主要幫助孩子的部份。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">這時孩子們對曲子都開始熟練,就可以開始練習完整的吹奏如同鳥兒開始練習飛翔,這時孩子們就需要家長們的支持了!我們先在家裡創造安全的空間讓他們試飛(也就是即使失敗了也沒有危險</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;">/</span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">不會被取笑、責罵),這就是我信中所述及的第一帖錦囊。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">讓孩子們慢慢地適應在觀眾面前表現,才能如同鳥兒的試飛一次比一次地有自信!那麼,有一天他們就能勇敢地、自信地、自由地展現自己,自由地在空中遨翔。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己想利用準備「比賽」的過程,逼迫學生更加努力學習來提昇他們的音樂能力。而沒有允許自己看到,我是在用自己的意志強壓於我的學生上。更沒有看到因為我的允許,在這比賽</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">的過中</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我置我與我的學生完全處於「能量」的掌控之中。</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">父親回南部了,本以為</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: x-large;">Arch</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">從此會乖乖地不再哀叫,因為「入侵者」已經不在了!可是,牠不但沒有停止哀叫反而叫聲變得更淒厲,這下我可慌了!因為所有我想的因素都不成立。這時我想若有人聽得懂貓語多好,上網一查果然有這種行業,於是立刻研究並準備預約,同時積極地設想防犯措施,買了塑膠網並費盡九牛二虎之力把後陽台圍起來,並整理乾淨同時不慎把小指剪了一道深深的傷口!心想這樣應萬無一失了吧!</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: x-large;">Arch</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">也得到多一點的自由應該不要再叫了吧!那知牠安靜了幾分鐘後又哀叫起來,我心想不理牠,過了一會兒,唉!安靜了。我悄悄地到後陽台一看,啊!沒有貓影,牠居然在我如此佈下的天羅地網中也能投奔自由!這時我終於明白牠的心意了。</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-12174550986981864462012-10-05T22:00:00.000-07:002012-10-08T19:15:55.100-07:0010/05 Arch-2 馴貓or虐貓<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">日前</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: x-large;">Arch</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">(我的貓)在外面探險了一日夜,居然自己找到回家的路回來!我自然是非常的歡喜,馬上抱牠、疼愛牠並檢查是否安好?還好,看起來毫髮無損。但是,牠的心靈似乎起了變化!日日夜夜只要牠醒著,一定不斷地哀叫,我也因此被搞得夜夜失眠,又因為近日父親來台北與我共住,為了怕吵醒他老人家,每當</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: x-large;">Arch</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">一叫我的神經就一緊,就這樣一個星期來,弄得我幾乎要崩潰了!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己因為</span><span lang="EN-US">Arch</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">離家,引發許多負面的念頭:牠會不會找不到回家的路!牠會不會被其它的貓欺負!牠會不會吃到有毒的死老鼠!</span><span lang="EN-US">…….</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,引發更多焦慮、擔心的情緒,進而在物質的身體中體驗心臟部位似有重物壓著,腦中轟轟作響無法思考!</span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-19944566119380313442012-09-23T17:30:00.001-07:002012-10-08T20:37:28.012-07:0009/23 摔車記<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">今天風和日麗,一時興起把小折打好氣騎車郊遊去!</span><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-38292929634691775142012-09-17T05:30:00.000-07:002012-09-17T05:30:01.236-07:0009/14 恐懼 – 4<br />
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</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: x-large;">– </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">自己一生耽溺在「正能量」的追求並排斥「負能量」,早已成為能量惡魔的奴隸!也是因為自己沒有承擔對自己的責任、作自己的主導原則,並在自己的接受與允許之下交託給「能量惡魔」主導,如此才會進入心智中「僥倖、怨天尤人」的暗聊,以便激發更多的能量來餵食、壯大心智系統。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己認為「失去財富、健康、親情、名譽、權力、生命等」就等同「失去存在」,所以緊緊地抓著這些抵死保護,並由過程中激發出各種能量,如:興奮、失落、無力、無助、怨恨、恐懼等情緒能量,而沒有允許自己看到這些都是心智編程的戲碼,我只是超級入戲演出的演員!更沒有允許自己看到,這背後真正的陰謀是阻止我認識真正的『我』,並了解真「存在」的本質為何?</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">需要有「掌控」的是心智!心智透過「控制欲」來奴役我們的物質身體,使我們疲於奔命地抓取、掠奪、維護,假若“成功”則激發高亢能量,反之則激盪出極端負面的恐懼能量。無論處於任一者,「心智」都是大贏家!</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">– </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">雖然看起來是被能量惡魔奴困,但卻是在自己先接受與允許的前題下成就的,也就是自己先放棄了承擔自己的責任、自己放棄了作自己的主導原則,才可能讓心智成為主人並壯大。我承諾我自己,現在是我人生的最後一次機會成為自己真正的主人,我有</span><span lang="EN-US">DIP</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">給我的工具,我要做的是讓自己有紀律地運用工具走上我自己的進程,走上我的自由之旅!</span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-4990880902793983592012-09-13T23:30:00.000-07:002012-09-13T23:30:02.398-07:0009/13 恐懼 – 3<br />
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-size: x-large;"> </span></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">又例如我是害怕交通意外!</span><span style="font-size: x-large;"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">但,假若我是真的害怕交通意外,那我應該無法放鬆的乘坐飛機、高鐵、開車、騎車等!雖然從媒體上會讀到許多可怕的交通事故,但我卻又有一種“事不關己”的想法,認為『這是發生在很遙遠的地方,應該不會發生在我身上吧!』</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">我們有沒有想過:失去了財富、健康、親情、名譽、權力、生命等就真的危害「生存」了嗎?我們的「生存」是由這些建構起來的嗎?我們真能「掌控這一切」嗎?我們連最簡單的“心跳”都無法掌控了,我們還要掌控什麼呢!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">還有,至於“過去(已發生)”的恐懼經驗它存留在於「回憶」中,假若回想起來也只不過“心有餘悸”的感覺而已,因為我們都知道「回憶」是無法傷害我們且讓我「失去」什麼的!但是,「回憶」卻伴演著觸發「恐懼情緒能量」的重要角色。</span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13023717684426055196noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5993778198314928411.post-63848166184942104722012-09-12T15:30:00.000-07:002012-09-16T23:41:24.507-07:0009/12 恐懼 – 2<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; font-size: x-large;">從小個性內向、害羞、怯於表現自己。當時社區只有芭蕾舞與鋼琴兩種才藝讓小孩學習,我打死也不肯穿紗紗的芭蕾篷裙,那就只好選彈鋼琴了,沒想到就此走上一條驚嚇之旅。除了每周提心吊膽的琴課之外還有無數的上台表現、比賽、考試等,都以一幕幕緊張、害怕、恐懼的畫面存在於我的回憶中。</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己不斷地參與由恐懼所驅動的能量、不斷地讓這物質的身體經歷這些經驗,這一點一滴全都記錄在我的細胞中,如:台上因為恐懼而經驗各種顫抖、窒息感、腦子空白,甚至腦子無法控制的不斷地說『妳就要出錯了!妳就要出錯了!』我沒有允許我自己認知到</span>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">記得國小時,老師對我很徧心,他看我長得瘦小又由於參加田徑隊可以得到額外的牛奶等營養補充,所以讓我加入田徑隊,我就成為全隊最瘦小的一員。在訓練的過程中我很害怕田徑場上的競爭,特別對那一聲起跑的槍聲有無限的畏懼感。終於來到比賽的日子,我永遠記得比賽前一晚怕害得無法入睡,甚至偷拿了一隻鐵釘想自殘自己的腳來逃避比賽,但要自己用鐵釘刺入自己的腳掌那是更恐怖的事!就這樣整晚把自己搞得精疲力盡,致於比賽是如何進行,卻一點兒也不記得!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己想到『恐懼』時,馬上連結到心智中許許多多過去體驗到恐懼的回憶。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己常藉由存在於心智中恐懼的片段回憶觸發『恐懼』的情緒,而沒有允許自己去看到</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"> – </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我為什麼會恐懼、我在恐懼什麼、恐懼是什麼</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">……</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己害怕田徑中的『競爭』,因為競爭就代表『輸贏』,而我認為我一定會輸!我沒有允許我自己看到原來我是害怕『輸』。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己害怕『輸』,因為『輸』等同是『失敗者』,而沒有允許我自己看到我害怕的是因為『失敗者』所連結的</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"> – </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我是很差的、我是沒有價值的、我是不值得受師長的疼愛的、想從這世上消失</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">….</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的種種想法,並由這些想法所觸發的</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"> – </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">羞愧、丟臉、失望、罪惡感等情緒。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己面對競爭的壓力時總是想『逃避』,而沒有允許自己察覺到</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"> – </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">原來我所要逃避的並不是競爭這件事,而是想逃避由競爭而『輸』所帶來的負面情緒能量。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己以「能量的正負、好壞、舒不舒服」為生活準則,追求正</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">好</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">舒服的能量、逃避負</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">壞</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">不舒服的能量,而沒有允許自己看到這些由情緒所激發出來的能量,正是心智的計謀使人類完全奴困於兩極能量當中,更沒有允許自己認知到這不只是個人奴困於個人的心智中,而且因為自己極端地追求正能量,必定會促進實化出負能量而產生</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif;">“</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">受虐、不公平等</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif;">”</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">真實事件。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己由「起跑的槍聲」引發恐懼的情緒,因為我害怕無法精準的判斷槍聲何時會響起、害怕聲到槍聲時無法立即反應起跑、更害怕在槍聲未響起之前就犯規起跑,既使開跑時一切都沒有出錯,但結果我也一定跑輸!所以從比賽的開始到結束的整個過程都令我非常的害怕!而沒有允許自己看到我所害怕</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">擔心的情況,以當時而言是完全沒有發生的事情,這些未發生的事情全是心智中的預設狀況,是這些預設的負面狀況引發自己害怕、擔心、恐懼的情緒。現在我允許我看到,這一切從心智的預設想法到激發恐懼的情緒,完全是心智一手策畫使我奴困於其中,而且這些回憶隨時會隨著相似的事件使我再次地跳入相同的心智奴困模式,使我不斷地受虐、受苦。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我接受和允許我自己讓心智做主,而沒有允許自己看到自己已無形中傳承自父母的思想模式</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"> – </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">老是往負面的情況預設立場,進而產生許多負面的情緒能量,這不是「自己嚇自己」嗎?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我原諒我自己,因為我沒有接受和允許我自己看到</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"> – </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">為什麼我想以自殘腳來逃避田徑比賽?因為在更幼年時有一回腳踩到鐵釘感染的很嚴重,那時我得到全部的關愛並享有極大的特權,所以,因此想籍由鐵釘自殘來達到既逃避比賽又可得到關愛的特權!但因為更害怕『疼痛』而下不了手,如此讓「自己看不起自己」的程度更加一級。現在我允許自己看到,是因為我的「自我不誠實」而導致「自己無法看重自己」。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我承諾我自己,我要致力於拆穿心智的奴困模式。當面臨壓力想逃避時,我要覺察到這是相同的心智所主導的劇本要開演了,我要運用呼吸支持自己回到物質的身體中,並透過書寫、自我寬恕、自我修正等工具,使自己從內心站起來指揮自己,首先告訴自己「不要逃!不要參與由恐懼所驅動的情緒!」再往自己所害怕的壓力看進去,會發現自己所害怕的都是根本不存在的!進而誠實地、勇敢地、負責地展現自己的生命,去做當下對自己及全體人類最有利益的事。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">當我注意到自己被「存在於心智中恐懼的片段回憶觸發『恐懼』的情緒」時,我立即停止去參與其中並運用呼吸回到這裡。我認識到由心智中的記憶觸發恐懼情緒的模式是由心智設計的一種自動程序,每當我參與這個模式時,都是在自我放棄自己的主導原則,並藉由放棄自己的責任同時接受和允許了自己受心智模式的奴役和支配。</span><span style="color: #323e32; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: SimSun;">因此,我承諾我自己,在每一次面臨恐懼情緒能量時,我致力於呼吸、</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">書寫、自我寬恕、自我修正等工具</span><span style="color: #323e32; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: SimSun;">實際行動改正自己,為自己承擔起自己的責任,做回自己的主人,主導自己直到真正徹底停止並改正這個心智自動模式,將自己從心智中解放出來!</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #323e32; font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">當我覺察到自己「老是往負面的情況預設立場」時,我要回到身體中呼吸並指揮停止思想。我承諾要為我自己看出</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif;"> - </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我之所以「老是有負面的想法」,是因為在我自己的生長過程當中多是經由模仿或複製他人(尤其是父、母)的思想、情緒的反應模式,在潛移默化中已成為我自己的全動化心智程序。因此,我要致力於應用呼吸、寫作、自我寬恕和自我修正等工具,逐漸覺察、審思、質疑和挑戰這些我相信</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif;">/</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">認為就是我自己的情緒反應模式,並逐步解除這些情緒反應模式使自己不再受這些心智反應模式的支配和控制,取回自己的主導權,由自己作為自己的主導原則。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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